As i said... i have rants to get on with... at first i thought that it might just spoil my mood... but second thought... timing isnt really an issue... so i decided to pick this lovely morning... to release some of my stuff... which maybe some people are very curious about... wahahahah... (*winks)
first things first... i would like to say... everybody is not perfect... everybody have their flaws and weaknesses... but its up to them whether to improve or change or not... and its up to you whether you could accept it or not... sometimes a flaw may not seem such a big problem to person A but it's a great big deal to person B... so who's problem is it??? the person with the flaw or person B??? in my opinion it has to be person B... because it is not a big deal to other people... so you either learn to accept... or just totally ignore... i understand it is hard to accept something you dont agree with... but i dont think its necessary to make such a fuss about it.. since some people could stand the way it is... well... in some situations... if everybody couldnt stand the flaw... or a majority couldnt... then the person should do something with the flaw... because its disturbing almost everybody around the person... but if there's just a minority... maybe it's the flaw that makes out who you are... makes you unique.. makes you special... what's the fuss???
well... everybody has a right to voice out when they see something they dont agree with... but i shall also say... they also the right not to... so just see how it goes... if they decided not to say anything... may they can still bear with it... and they also have their ways of avoiding it to affect themselves... so why make a fool???? and ruin things that are in a good condition???
i shall also say that... talking behind people's back is not a good thing... but sometimes... there might be a reason behind that... although it may not be strong enough to support but then... sometimes its really better that way... i have experience... that people cannot really handle critisms although they claim they could... in the end... friendships... gone... everything... vanished.... so why pretend as though you could when in the reality you couldnt???? and as a result... break things that arent suppose to be broken???
i stand my views as if i dont like people doing that to me.. i will not do that to others in the first place... like i hate being framed... so at least i will not be framing people for what they have not done.... but however... i never said that i hate people talking about things behind my back... honestly i'm ok with that... ok... maybe i'll be a little uncomfortable... but come on.... who likes to be the topic of gossips??? i'm still ok with it... because the mouth belongs to others... i cant do anything about it... although... due to my very "kepo"-ness... i am always curious about what they have to say about me... well... if i get to know it...
hmm... ok let's make it this way... if its a negative thing... and that person doesnt like it... ok.. i'll try my best not to do that in front of him/her.. but that doesnt mean that i could change overnight and completely stop to be a different person.... maybe others could accept so i could express the way i am to the people who can accept... no harm done....
its hard to change something that has been comfortably set in you... maybe you could avoid.. but its still in you... like how i dont like malaysian cantonese.... i avoid using the term that were only used in malaysia... but my hong kong friends still say i speak in a very malaysian way... what to do??? its with me all the time.... sometimes they'll say... "hey... you now speak less like a malaysian already... welcome to hong kong!!!".... i'll be like "really??!!! oh gosh!!! i didnt realise!! yippee!!"
same theory... different situations... applicable anytime.... anywhere...
however... i believe people talks about other people behind their backs all the time... good or bad.. it's just a part of mingling with other friends... nobody, i believe... nobody don't talk about the people they know behind their backs... of course unless they are dumb.... cant talk isnt a crime after all... being talked about isnt really as bad as some people think it is... in another way... i think maybe because i'm remembered for something... people know me for something... good or bad... hmmm... that's another thing then.... i'm working in the entertainment industry and we need these "gossips" to survive... no gossips... nothing... there's no word of mouth... then... please take out your wallet and pay for the promotion.. thank you very much....
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apa dah jadi ni?r u facing problem during ur intern?pls tell me in details we meet :P
haha...
i'm ok with my intern...
just to release some points of view of mine...
will tell you when we meet anyway...
by the way... when are we meeting??
i have to disagree with what you said about talking behind peoples backs, especially when you mention that its with these "gossips" are the reason to survive in the entertainment industry.
Pfft. Honestly, how much gossip you need to continue living your life o? And do you mean you're solely dependent on the latest juicy updates to keep your mind sane when working in the entertainment industry?
it is because people with your theory that made the entertainment industry so hard to live in. And these are not the stars. These are the promoters, the PRs, the paparazzis.
One word: gossip. One word: backstab, somebody's life will either changed, feel negative, or end up feeling worsed. Tell me, what sort of conscience are u having? So people in the entertainment industry uses gossip values instead of their working values to move their way up?
Wow, and imagine when everyone bitches and gossip nonstop. You don't know who is your ultimate friend inside. Unless, entertainment industry to you is solely just your working life whereby you only want concentrate and nothing more. But to earn your position, you need to build contacts, and then you gossip some more for contacts. Walau, endless vicious cycle.
Please, go to Hong Kong. It's definitely for you. After all, it is one of the worst cities to live in because of its gossiping nature and terrible social manners =).
And don't tell me your proud of it. If youre proud of Hong Kong go ahead. The fact remains that it is still one that has terrible social manners.
If this is what you've been defending for, then it's too bad. Because what you're defending is so feeble. Gossip is healthy? Ptui. Your own world allows it. The others doesn't. Burst that bubble of yours and look at reality.
thank you so much for not revealing who you are...
i didnt say that i like gossips... i'm ok with them and i can certainly live with them...
and besides... i never said i'm proud of it.. and i never said gossips are healthy... i only said its ok... i did say it is not a good thing... so stop putting words into my mouth...
and i have mentioned that i dont go into people's personal stuff.. so i'm nothing like a paparazzi..
yes i do talk about people behind their backs... but then i talk about the things the do that i disagree... and ask whether other do feel the same or its only me...
ya.. maybe i take it another step ahead by making jokes about it... but then... does it affect anybody??
there's this chinese proverb... that says if there's people there's gossip... well.. maybe you're not chinese educated... so maybe you dont know about that...
besides.. i think you have the wrong idea about my perception of gossip... when i say gossip.. means things people do that i disagree... that's what i talk about... i dont go off with their personal life and anything else besides what i see...
in hong kong... their perception of gossips is what they couldnt see... the very personal and intimate side of stars... that is what their mean by juicy gossips...
well... gossips and rumours do help in promotion... go ask around.. i mean ask people WITH EXPERIENCE and let them tell you...
Alright. My bad then if you can't see it another way. I just came across this blog from your fanfic blog and honestly I don't see where your stand on gossiping is. Kinda like guilty pleasure, you like gossiping but hate being gossiped.
However, my theory about gossiping, and I've hanged around enough to know, when you do it to people, it's gossip; when people do it to you, it's backstab.
Perhaps the friends you had were really people who can't just accept their own flaws when being confronted and in the end everything is just a big pile of beating around the bush. If this is the vicious cycle you like to promote, then do not complain if one day, what you hate which is being framed as you said in your blog, will happen to you.
I'm not kidding. People who love to gossip had ended up getting blacklisted in companies and not promotion. I don't know why you had to say that. Perhaps, it is not clear that I said that my views on gossip is among the commoners who are working who will feel the pressure of it? Unless, like I've said, gossip values are higher than working values in the entertainment industry?
Lastly, 若要人不知，除非己莫为.Good luck
i said that i am ok with people gossiping behind my back because i do it sometimes too... well... who likes being gossiped?? i dont like it but i couldnt help it when other do that... because i cant control that...
anyway... thanks for your comments... and since you said you were from my fanfic blog.. i would like to thank you again... because i thought nobody ever reads that blog...
this post is just me voicing out my mind... because i dont have the courage to do it face to face to people... it's just some coward act.. and clearly... i dont think i'm talking about you... so i dont know why are you so aggressive about it...
anyway... i'm just saying something that a friend of mine would like to hear from me... because i dont dare say it out loud...
so if you are not the friend... i dont see the reason for you to be so aggressive and pissed about the things i have to say...
wow,having some kind of "debate" here arr?who the hell is tat fella?@.@
i dont know when we will meet ler.when is cheryl coming bek here?
dono who is that person... just randomly stomps into people's blog and start giving rude comments.. weird weird d... because i didnt offend anybody also... i just state a point of view... then i also did say that its not s very good thing to do but it reality you have to accept it...
anyway... dont care la.. i dont know him, he dont know me... wont meet each other also.. why should i bother... i just reply coz he dont understand my point... and turns it around into his own statements...
maybe from a different world lo...
cheryl is coming back this month but i'm not sure when... i think should be this week gua... but i thought after they come back, have to quarantine for 1 week or something???
besides, now week 6 or 7 liao le... u are not busy???
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